There are people in the World who are trying to cope with the absence of Love in their lives either by choice or circumstance, temporarily or long-term.

If the circumstances of your life require that you live without feeling the effects of an absence of Love in your life, there are a bunch of defenses tailor made for living without Love.

Stay distant from people you could feel attracted to; stay busy; keep yourself distracted; deny the importance of Love in your life.

Numb yourself with alcohol and/or drugs; tell yourself that people are not to be trusted; and ignore everything related to Love.

Human beings are all born with a need for Love built into our natures.

Left in its natural state, this need for Love will generate feelings from joy to frustration and hurt depending upon the extent to which the need is actually satisfied.

For a lot of people, childhood is the last time in their lives when their need for Love was experienced in its original unadulterated state.

Some adults experience their need for Love in pretty much the same ways they experienced it as children.

For other adults, the feelings that are usually generated from their need for Love have long since been muted. Everybody else is somewhere between these two extremes.

Most people are subjected to some feelings generated from their unsatisfied need for Love.

Unfortunately, the World we live in is not always giving of Love and kindness.

In too many instances a need for Love left exposed to the harder elements of life will result in unnecessary disappointment, hurt, and pain.

People with a need for Love that can not be satisfied for whatever reason at this time in their lives have no other option than to develop psychological defenses against feelings emanating from their unsatisfied need for Love.

Even though most psychological defenses are practiced in a habitual manner, sometimes with very little Consciousness, ultimately with a little Self-Awareness we do have a say about which defenses we practice.

The thing to remember about psychological defenses is, we all practice them to one degree or another, and to practice them in a constructive and healthy manner is the objective.

You will know that your personal use of psychological defensiveness has become self-destructive when what you are practicing is no longer under your control.

In other words, your psychological defenses are in control of you instead of the other way around.

At which point you will probably experience a conflict between what you really want or need and what you will let yourself have.

Your psychological defenses generally work in two directions at the same time, they diminish the impact of what is coming at you from the outside World and diminish the impact of what is coming at you from the inside World.

Niki, a beautiful new girl, is the new girl at school. She meets a trio of friends: Benjy, Bobby and Yudale. Benjy, the typical ‘nice guy’ of the group immediately falls in Love with Niki.

However, Niki prefers the more aggressive and experienced Bobby. Learning that Niki is a virgin, Bobby brags to his friends that he will seduce, then dump her, much to Benji’s dismay.

However, Benji is too dependent on his friends and too reluctant to ruin their friendship to warn Niki of Bobby’s intentions, and must watch as Bobby and Niki begin dating.

Bobby finally take Niki’s virginity, leaving her pregnant. Benji rushes in to emotionally console Niki and helps her to get an abortion, hoping that she will grow to love him for his support, only to be crushed when Niki and Bobby reconcile and resume dating.

Lemon Popsicle is a 1978 West German-Israeli comedy drama film. Released on 11 of February it became an immediate commercial success.