2003-06-29 Fenwick, USA / My own single Self / Mein eigenes Ich / Meu próprio Eu / Mi propio Yo

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As a child, Hepburn joined her mother on several ‘Votes For Women’ demonstrations. The Hepburn children were raised to exercise freedom of speech and encouraged to think and debate on any topic.

Hepburn said she realized from a young age that she was the product of two very remarkable parents, and credited her enormously lucky upbringing with providing the foundation for her success.

The young Hepburn was a tomboy who liked to call herself Jimmy, and cut her hair short. Her father was eager for his children to use their minds and bodies to the limit, and taught them to swim, run, dive, ride, wrestle, and play golf and tennis.

She loved swimming and was a fan of movies from a young age. She put on plays and perform for her neighbors with friends and siblings for 50 cents a ticket to raise money for the Navajo people.

In April of 1921, Hepburn, 14, and her brother Tom were visiting New York. On April 3, Hepburn discovered the body of her adored older brother dead from an apparent suicide.

He had tied a sheet around a beam and hanged himself. The family denied it was suicide and maintained that Tom’s death must have been an experiment that had gone wrong.

The incident made the teenage Hepburn nervous, moody, and suspicious of people. She shied away from other children, dropped out of Oxford School, and began receiving private tutoring.

For many years she used Tom’s birthday (November 8) as her own. It was not until her autobiography, ‘Me: Stories of My Life’ in 1991 that Hepburn revealed her true birth date.

Hepburn‘s relentless energy and enthusiasm for life are often cited in biographies, while a headstrong independence became key to her celebrity status. This self-assuredness meant she could be controlling and difficult.

She was famously blunt and outspoken. Hepburn confessed to being a ‘me me me person’. While she was demanding, she retained a sense of humility and humanity.

I am an atheist, and that’s it. I believe there is nothing we can know, except that we should be kind to each other and do what we can for other people.

Dear single Self,

First of all, you are amazing. I am not trying to brag on you or anything, but you really need to hear that. Your Love for helping others and wanting to make a difference in this World is going to take you to some really great places I do not think you are expecting.

Even though you have had some great relationships, remember that when they did not work out or end well, it was not just because of you. But .. grow. Understand how you could have been better or what you could have done differently. Be accountable and admit when you were not at your best.

Do not ghost people who care about you – do not just cut people off. Say your piece from a place of Love and respect, and go forward knowing you left a healthier mark than you could have. That is being authentic and vulnerable, which you are really going to learn more about later in life.

Understand that whatever happens in your relationships will only make you stronger and more ready for the relationship you are meant to be in. The one that has not happened yet. That is something to look forward to.

I know you are going to look at other people for ways to feel validated and good enough. But .. do not. You already are enough. You are complete! You have people around you encouraging and telling you this, but for some reason do not completely believe it yet. I know it is hard. But you do not need to fit in with every group everywhere to be okay. You already are.

Learn how to sit with yourself. Learn how to be with yourself with nothing else going on. You have to lean into the discomfort of everything you dislike about yourself in order to fully accept yourself. So start now, because the World is not waiting and you have got some really incredible people coming your way in life.

Trust in time. Do not just assume that because something has not happened yet or someone has not entered your life yet that it never will or they will not. They will. If getting married is a goal of yours, you will. If figuring out your dream job is that important to you, you will. You already are. So relax, and do not forget to enjoy the ride of today.

Take chances, and do not be afraid. Trust in yourself. Have experiences, but do not lose yourself in the midst of it all. Stay strong about who you are and where you are headed. Do not let stress and anxiety overrule your life.

You are figuring yourself out and it is messy, scary, but also beautiful. Learn about gratitude, and have more of that in your life. Right now is shaping who you will become.

Keep working on becoming the kind of person you want to be. I promise you, the people meant to be in your life will be crossing your path soon.

Your older and still imperfect Self