Timeouts – symbolic abandonment – do not help your child to become a responsible, a self-disciplined Human being. Timeouts make your child see himself as bad.

This lowers self-esteem and creates bad behavior; people who feel bad about themselves tend to behave badly.

Timeouts do not teach your child to regulate his emotions. In actuality, your child may grow angry and resentful.

Timeouts give your child the message that he is alone with his scary feelings just when he needs you most.

Timeouts send the message that you only want to engage in a relationship with your child when they are pleasant and happy.

Timeouts fuel power struggles. When your child is in timeout he is not using that time to think about what he did wrong, rather, he is thinking about how mean you are.

Attention feeds behavior. Your own behaviour guides your child. Your child watches you to get ideas on how to behave – and what you do is often much more important than what you say.

If you want your child to say ‘Please’, say it yourself. If you want your child to say ‘Thank you’, say it yourself. If you want your child to say ‘I love you’, say it yourself.