There is no word in the English language for a parent who loses a child. When our parents die we are orphans. When our spouse dies, we are widowed. When a child dies we are speechless.

In the natural order of things, parents are not meant to bury their children. You must readapt to a new and seemingly illogical reality.

Losing a child in any way is probably the singular most devastating passage anyone could be asked to endure during a lifetime.

With the death of your child, your hopes, dreams and plans for the future are turned upside down.

You are beginning a journey that is frightening, painful and overwhelming. The death of a child results in the most profound bereavement.

Sometimes your feelings of grief may be so intense that you do not understand what is happening.

The death of your child can result in a variety of emotions. Confusion, disorganisation, fear, guilt, anger and relief are just a few of the emotions you may feel. Allow yourself to learn from these feelings.

And do not be surprised if out of nowhere you suddenly experience surges of grief, even at the most unexpected times.

Your ability to think clearly and make decisions may be impaired. And your low energy level may naturally slow you down.

You have every right to express your grief. No one has the right to take it away. Memories are one of the best legacies that exist after the death of your child. You will always remember.

Memories can be tinged with both happiness and sadness. Your memories bring laughter and smile. Your memories bring sadness and tears.

Memories that were made in Love – no one can take them away from you.