When the balance goes into the negative zone, every marriage, relationship, Love affair, even every one night stand friendship starts to fall apart.

We are not strong enough or patient enough to pull out of the darkness …

… to hold on to that person as they try to navigate their way out of the darkness and back into the light.

It is a bumpy and often thorny road back to happiness and wholeness but you can only get there with unconditional love.

It is just too hard … and there is always some shiny new person just around the corner who does not have all of these issues and insecurities you do not want to deal with.

Why stick around and put up with somebody else’s darkness when you can get out before the going gets real tough.

Unconditional love is the ability to love the full spectrum of someone, from their goodness to their darkness.

It is about understanding their inner battles, even when it is hard to relate to what they are going through or not understanding why they keep making the same mistakes over and over.

Loving someone through goodness and darkness means walking alongside in whatever journey they are on without judging, without making them feel inadequate, and without trying to fix them.

People who hold the most sacred place in your heart are those who have allowed you to fail, who loved you through the darkness in your life while it may have been frustrating and painful to watch your imperfect process.

Through these city nightmares you’d walk with me
And we’d talk of it with idealistic assurance
That it wouldn’t tear us apart
We’d keep our heads above the blackened water
But there’s no room for ideals in this mechanical place
And you’re gone now

Through a grimy window that I can’t keep clean
Through billowing smoke that’s swallowed the sun
You’re nowhere to be seen

Do you think our desires still burn
I guess it was desires that tore us apart
There has to be passion
A passion for living, surviving
And that means detachment
Every-body has a weapon to fight you with
To beat you with when you are down
There were too many defence between us
Doubting all the time
Fearinf all the time
Doubting all the time
Fearinf all the time
That like these urban nightmares
We’d blacken each other skies

When we passed the subway we tried to ignore our fate there
Of written threats on endless walls
Unjustified crimes carried on stifled calls
Would you walk with me now through this pouring rain
It used to mingle with our tears then dry with the hopes
That we left behind
It rains even harder now