Making a false accusation is an aggressive act.

Being accused of a crime one did not commit is torture, and once the information is out there, trying to defend yourself, clear your name, fight suspicion, and tolerate disdain makes for a horrible predicament.

The psychological devastation can be ruinous. If you are not believed, if you can not fight back with the true story, if now you are distrusted and under scrutiny, the sense of helplessness is overwhelming.

Some people lie or feel so injured for rational or irrational reasons that they come to believe their own distortions.

There are those who are at peace when they lie and those who toss, turn, and torture themselves about doing so.

You might wonder if this person is truly seeking wellness, self-protection, or justice, or if the goal is simply to destroy someone else.

If a person is lying to hurt someone else, it is a highly aggressive act and the accuser needs help.

Maybe there is a need to blame or malign for secondary gain: attention, fame, money, importance or drama. Maybe the person is not in touch with reality and is retaliating against an imagined transgression.

Some seemingly intact people can have paranoid fears at the core. In order to ‘defend’ themselves, they act against others.

Maybe the goal is to take someone else down for competitive, regressed, or unconscious reasons.

Someday you’ll be sorry
The way you treated me was wrong
I was the one who taught you all you know
Your friends have told you to make me sing another song

So good luck may be with you
And for the future have no fears
There won’t be another to treat you like a brother
Someday you’ll be sorry dear

Custody disputes naturally have an effect on the relationship between children and their parents, partially because the custody of the child is the primary reason for the conflict between the two parents.

The child can become an information gatherer, a messenger from one parent to the other, and an innocent participant in the parents’ battle over custody

False allegations of child sexual abuse have lasting effects on the child. The result of falsifying an allegation of abuse is an interference with the court’s ability to recognize the best interests of the child.

The allegations can send detrimental thoughts into the mind of the impressionable child.

The most severe effect of false accusations of child sexual abuse may be the permanent damage to the child’s relationship with the wrongly accused parent.

To protect children who are suspected victims of child sexual abuse, the court will often require visitation with the accused be supervised while the case is pending. This has an effect on both the parent and child.

While supervised visitation can help protect the accused so that additional claims of child sexual abuse can not be made, it may also leave the child with the impression that they are not safe being alone with their parent

I ain’t gonna be the first to cry
Even though you had the last laugh on me
I ain’t gonna be the first to cry
Even though you had the last laugh on me
You’re just a link in my chain
Someone else will end this misery

I ain’t gonna be the lonely one
Someone will chase the clouds away
I ain’t gonna be the lonely one
Someone will end this rainy day
It’s just a matter of time
And time is all I got since you went away

I ain’t gonna be the first to cry
Even though you had the last laugh on me
I ain’t gonna be the first to cry
Even though you had the last laugh on me
You’re just a link in my chain
Someone else will end this misery

I ain’t gonna let the teardrops fall
They could never wash away this pain
I ain’t gonna let the teardrops fall
Even though you turned my love into a game
There’s just one thing, that you should know
You’ll be sorry some day